What a sad sad state of affairs we are in when a Muslim is giving dating tips to other Muslims. May Allah protect us from such evil…aameen. Be that as it may, it is the duty of every Muslim to enjoin the good and forbid the evil (contrary to the link that is advising you on how to do haram and get away with it!). Rather than place a long comment on that blog, I will counter her advise with the proper advise of how to protect yourself.

All praise is due to Allah, the One Who says:

[And do not come near to zina (the unlawful sexual intercourse).] (Al-Israa’ 17:32)

And peace and blessings be upon His slave and Messenger Muhammad, who said, “When a man commits fornication, faith departs from him and there is something like a canvas roof over his head; and when he quits that action, faith returns to him” (Abu Dawud 40:4673).

Prophet Muhammad viewed zina as a serious crime. It is reported that Allah’s Messenger ordered that an unmarried man who committed illegal sexual intercourse be scourged one hundred lashes and sent into exile for one year (Al-Bukhari 3:48 817).

 

The first revelation concerning the punishment for zina was to leave the woman confined to her home until she died. {4:15} However, this was later abrogated and a verse was revealed for the prescribed punishment for both men and women.

[And as for the two who are guilty of indecency from among you, give them both a punishment; then if they repent and amend, turn aside from them; surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), the Merciful.] (An-Nisaa’ 4:16)

[(As for) the fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them, (giving) a hundred stripes, and omen.

let not pity for them detain you in the matter of obedience to Allah and the last day.] (An-Nur 24:2)

 

This is why I pity the fool who follows the advice on that blog. Some of the tips were comical indeed. For the one who fears their Lord, than looking out for cameras means absolutely nothing when you know that Allah Is All Seeing and watches over EVERTHING!

I know you may be thinking why I am speaking of zina when all the other blogger talked about was ‘innocent’ dating. Why? Because Allah said DO NOT COME NEAR IT. The words, COME NOT NEAR, means: STAY AWAY FROM all such things and practices which lead to zina – which are baby steps to fornication. Dating and the bloggers advice on bringing pepper spray is proof enough that by going on a date this could possibly lead to zina. While dating has become widespread in the West and acceptable, it is neither widespread nor acceptable for Muslims. Yes, there are some Muslims who date but they should fear Allah and repent from it.

Furthermore, The Messenger of Allah salla Allahu Alayhi wa sallam said:
“The zina of the eyes is the gaze (at that which is unlawful e.g. nudity); the zina of the ears is to listen (to talks of nudity which excites the carnal desires); the zina of the tongue is to speak (what is evil); the zina of the hand is to touch (the female which is unlawful to man e.g. anyone other than blood mother, blood sister, blood aunt, blood daughter, wife); the zina of the feet is to walk (towards immorality); the zina of the heart is to desire (what is unlawful), and it is the private parts which either commits or shuns the actual act of fornication.” (Muslim)

Here is an example of a Muslim who fell into zina and is seeking advice on how to repent and never do it again (not advice on how to properly do it and get away with it! True Muslims would shun such advice):

As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Baraktuh. I am new to this forum [deleted]My question is about zina.

A little background first: for the past 3 months I started to date this white girl. i always knew it was wrong, but just recently ended it about a week ago because i know it is inappropriate in Islam to do this.

yesterday, she called me over to help her with her school work and i came up. we ended up committing zina as i gave into my foolish desires. after that i promised Allah that I would never do it again and that he forgive me this one time. However, I made the foolish mistake of repeating the action today. I feel terrible about this and have vowed to never engage in any such actions. Will Allah still forgive me for I have repeated a sin that I promised I would never do again? I promised SWT again that I would never do it and that I would try to do more good deeds. I feel guilty that I repeated a sin and am even more worried that SWT will not forgive. Please give me some advice. I am very distraught. Thank you in advance.

What is interesting is that this post was written by a young man in America who feared His Lord. This was not written by a Saudi youth who feared His Society and could have continued secretly doing this (with the help of The Saudi Dating Guide). This guy could have continued sinning because it is acceptable in America. This is the difference between the Muslim who fears Allah and sins (as we all sin) and the people the dating guide was written for. The latter, worry about their reputation and if in a free mixing society like this young man is would never even need her advice because the society is immoral and lacks values. The replies were also written by Muslim youth in the West. Muslims all over the world should fear Allah in all that they do and Western Converts need to stop trying to reform Islam to be acceptable to their days of Ignorance, which they should have left behind when they accepted Islam!

 

I would strongly advise the author of The Saudi Dating Guide as well as her supporters to fear Allah and repent in light of the statement of Allah in Suratul ‘Araf ayah 33 when He said:قُلْ إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ رَبِّيَ الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَالْإِثْمَ وَالْبَغْيَ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ وَأَنْ تُشْرِكُوا بِاللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يُنَزِّلْ بِهِ سُلْطَانًا وَأَنْ تَقُولُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ

Say (O Muhammad SAW): “(But) the things that my Lord has indeed forbidden are AlFawahish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.) whether committed openly or secretly, sins (of all kinds), unrighteous oppression, joining partners (in worship) with Allah for which He has given no authority, and saying things about Allah of which you have no knowledge.”

and another verse that I have made an analogy of such blogs with is:
“And of mankind is he who purchases idle talks to mislead (men) from the Path of Allah without knowledge, and takes it (the Path of Allah, the Verses of the Quran) by way of mockery. For such there will be a humiliating torment (in the Hellfire). And when Our Verses (of the Quran) are recited to such a one, he turns away in pride, as if he heard them not, as if there were deafness in his ear. So announce to him a painful torment.” (Luqman 31:6-7)
O Muslims fear Allah and becareful who you take your naseehah (advice) from. Some people are ignorant. Some are emotional. Others follow their desires. Then there are those who simply have diseases in their hearts.
 
“The religion is naseehah.” The people asked, “To whom?” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) replied, “To Allaah and to His Book and to His Messenger and to the leaders of the Muslims and the common folk.” [Collected by Bukhari, Muslim]
 
The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) has equated the entire religion to giving naseehah, so becareful who you take it from. Naseehah is usually translated as ‘sincerity’ or ‘sincere advice’ and is a wonderful weapon if used properly. This weapon is suppose to be used in the war of good and evil and the machinery is each other. You don’t take your sincere advice about your way of life from non-Muslims or from ignorant Muslims or Muslims with agenda contrary to that which is pleasing to Allah. There advice can cause more harm than good. From giving naseehah to the common Muslim is that it should bring them benefit in this world and the hereafter, and commanding them what is right and forbidding them what is wrong with gentleness and sincerity.
Furthermore, it is necessary that a person has the intentions of seeking the pleasure of Allah when giving naseehah. Only such an intention deserves reward from Allah and acceptance from His slaves.

If the intention is other than that, then the person deserves the anger and wrath of Allah as well as the hatred and rejection of the people – including the one being advised.

I leave you with the following advice to the Ummah  from Shaykh Rabee:

“And it is not for any believing man, nor for any believing woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have made a judgement in an affair, that they have any choice on their part.”

So know that there is no way for you to ever deliver the Ummah (from harm) other than this way. And (know) that taking other approaches will not increase the Ummah in anything except destruction and humiliation. And (know) that nothing short of taking the Ummah away from their Religion will please the enemies of Islaam:

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