Blog stats are very interesting. I really like the way wordpress has everything set up. It will show you the Google search terms that lead people to your blog. I often get a kick at some of the terms, and even thought that I would do a post once I got enough interesting terms to blog about. Some of my traffic is accidental and the person will put the same key words in again if they liked the blog and want to find me. However, most of my traffic is from people that are specifically looking for me. They put UMM ADAM in the search engine. Other times, it is clear that it is from people looking for dirt on me. I often shake my head at some of the things they will put in, because it is obvious that they have some suspicion towards me and are spying on me (both are haram). I get people that I know who have never seen my blog before, contacting me and asking what in the world am I blogging about that has people so angry with me? Apparently, people are making a big fuss over my blog. I’ve had one person ask me if I could stop blogging, or else her husband doesn’t want her to associate with me (she’s in America!). She has NEVER read my blog but her husband is a devoted follower.

Others are under the impression that I am on here competing with Superhead, with my version of Confessions of A Video Vixen. They’ve heard that I am a disgrace and blog about my personal life. By the time the rumor gets around it’s as if I am hosting a blog orgy! Of course many of these rumors are started by those who admonish me for backbiting nameless people on my blog, while they totally ignore their advice and have an all you can eat buffet, with The Flesh of Umm Adam, as the day’s special!

There is even someone, who is reporting back to my husband EVERYTHING I blog about! This was the most disturbing, because he has no idea if my husband is the type that will come home and black my eye and knock my teeth out over something like this! My husband asked me today, if I was describing how I use to dress in jahiliyah. I do not recall ever describing how I use to dress, which really was not bad for a non-Muslim and leaned towards the modest side. However, because I have a category about my jahiliyah, it is the opinion of this person that it is not befitting of  a Muslim woman to openly discuss that. I respect his opinion and my husband has the utmost respect for the brother and this is another thing that bothers me. The brother does not have the shyness or respect to just not read the blog. It must be humiliating for my husband to be confronted like this (I’m assuming here because he has not said that, but I would be if a brother was coming to me telling me that he knew every detail of my wife’s online life and was complaining about it ). In some respect that should be reason enough for me not to blog. However, I don’t feel that I have blogged about anything that is top secret or for a select few. I think that if modesty and shyness is required of me than it is also required of brothers. You can not accuse me of being shameful and at the same time sit in my company (read my blog).

If you are a man, reading my blog, and you think that it is shameful for a Muslim woman to blog about her personal life – STAY THE H-E-DOUBLE HOCKEY STICK AWAY FROM MY BLOG!

What I found on my blog stats today, left me shocked and dismayed with hurt feelings 😦

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I don’t get it. What did I do to deserve such an insult? In the case of this searcher, they have more than likely never even read my blog. They have only heard about it. Either that or they have read my blog and are searching the net looking for more on me.

That’s right…people who do not approve of my blog with their self-righteous indignation – who accuse me of whatever – are often times CLEARLY wronging me, by backing biting, spying, and suspicion.

How many people have come to my blog, because someone told them about this ‘shameful’ sister who blogs? I know of several who have found out about my blog like that, because people have confronted my husband and I about it. One person came to our house, who had never seen the blog – but was told by someone else that I blogged about an event that he was familiar with. He wanted to advise my husband that I should be careful with what I blog about because someone who wasn’t even at the gathering was so ‘fumed’ after reading my blog that he now wants to take me to court! Even though I gave no names or locations! 

If you read my blog and you think you have figured out who or what I am talking about, which is more shameful – me giving a general telling or you playing detective to see who and what I am talking about and making it your business to inform them? Why did this person feel the need to contact those in attendance and inform them of my blog? The people there were not mentioned by name and would be the last people to read my blog. Not to mention, I did not backbite them, I merely related an interesting conversation!

My husband is better than them all, because not only does he not ask who these people are, but he does not tell me who has confronted him. In all of the cases he has never even initiated a talk with me to tell me that  someone has discussed my blog with him. I have always had a ‘sense’ for things and asked him each time, if someone brought up my blog. I just get this feeling.

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Is that from Islam? Is this the example of our pious predecessors? Does it really disturb you that much to see a Muslim woman blog about nothing but her everyday, mundane life?! This is why people think that Muslim women are oppressed! I have had many non-Muslims contact me, to tell me that they have never met a Muslim before, and the only thing that they know about Islam is from the media, and that even though my blog is not an Islamic blog – it gives them a glimpse into the life of a Muslim woman. And you know what they see? They see a woman who is trying to serve her Lord, please her husband, and raise up pious children? They see me as a better person than my own Muslim brothers and sisters do! And you know what else? They can relate to that! They no longer see all Muslim Women as oppressed. They realise that we are like any other women, who make choices and that unfortunately we sometimes are oppressed but they see it is not the religion that is oppressive, rather it is the people or environment. I’ve even been emailed by Christians who are embarrassed after reading the comments of my brethren STALKERS and have told me that they also understand that because it happens to them with theirs!

Do you know how ridiculous it would be for ANYBODY to try and sue me in court based on something I said on this blog? Do you realise how insane you make Islam, Muslims, The Shariah, and Saudi Judicial System look – when you claim that you will seek the hudud for backbiting (public lashings), when in fact I have more proof of your backbiting me than you have of me backbiting anybody?! Do you know who my thousands of neighbors are? Do you know whose  Ghetto Walima I attended? Do you know who wore weaves and dressed like tramps? NO! Dis I ever once mention names and locations? No, but YOU/Y’ALL sure have gone out of your way to try and identify my family and our whereabouts, even though I have NEVER mentioned my husband’s name or our whereabouts on here.

The funny thing is, that if you think you can take me to court on behalf of other UNKNOWN and UNNAMED people, then you will only open yourself up for me to sue you, because you have clearly done to me what you have accused me of doing to unnamed and unknown people. I can surely find out who YOU Are! Each time someone confronts my family about someone else exposing me, backbiting me, seeking out my shortcomings, studying my blog to get a ruling on, etc…I can find out who YOU are and YOU have clearly done worse than me.

Do you know one of the times it is permissible to lie? It is when trying to reconcile two Muslims. Why then would YOU read my blog and try to find out who was at the picnic I was referring too? Why does this bother you so much?! The same way you obviously have too much time on your hands, because you continue to busy yourself with that which does not concern you…MY BLOG – than perhaps I too have a little extra time on my hands and I blog. Sure there are much more beneficial things To could be doing with my time….but blogging is not stopping me from doing them…circumstances are. I would love to be a student at Umm Al -Qura, but that’s across the country. I would love to study Arabic, but there are no classes near me. I would love to devote my day and night to memorising the Quran, but I have children and can not concentrate all day and night on the Quran. So I blog..sometimes…it is a way for me to communicate with others. I am a stranger in a strange land. I know many wives who spend a great deal of their husbands pay checks calling home everyday…I DON’T! I rarely talk to anybody who speaks my language, besides the people in my home. So I blog! If anyone has a problem with that, do us all a favor and stay the FOUR LETTER WORD THAT STARTS WITH AN ‘F’ OFF OF MY BLOG!!!


* When I say YOU I am speaking of nobody in particular, because I know there is more than one. At one point a commenter said that there was a group of them studying my blog. So it’s a collective YOU and YOU ALL can kiss my grits!