The Recovery
Seems to be going from bad to worse. I don’t want to use this blog to complain , so I’ll just ask for duas.
I will mention the problems, just in case anyone has any experience or advice. I’m suffering from intense Bladder Trauma. I went to the ER last night and had a blood and urine investigation done. Nothing conclusive, but I think the doctor was not well qualified. Some protein showed up in my urine so he gave me a referral to a Urologist. He said it could be my kidneys, but I doubt that. I believe it is the bladder or urinary tract. I have gone from using the bathroom every hour, to every 30 minutes, to every 15 minutes. I no longer have pain upon urinating, but I have extreme bladder spasms and what seems like crazy nerve damage for the first minute after using it. I do not know how I have stayed sane. I have to go through this every 15 minutes and to top it off I can only sleep in 15 minute intervals (in between frequent nursing and diaper changes). I feel like my insides must look like a failed attempt at putting Humpty Dumpty together! I would say the pain is unbearable, but Allah never gives us more than we can bear – walhamduillah!
Allah says:
“We shall surely test you with fear and hunger, and loss of property and lives and crops; but give glad tidings to those who have fortitude. Who when struck by misfortune, say: ‘We belong to Allah, and surely to Him we shall return.’ “ [Al-Qur'an 2:155-156]
As if that is not enough, I have resumed the 5 daily prayers (Muslim women are excused for up to 40 days postpartum from the daily prayers due to post natel bleeding and also from praying that tie of the month). I feel awful for even feeling cheated of my 40 days – I thought that I would not be able to handle it – but I’m up most of the time anyway – I might as well pray. I know… still sounds bad!
Allah also says previous to these two ayat:
“O Believers, seek help in patience and in the ritual prayer. Allah is with those that are patient.” [Al-Qur'an 2:154]
The Baby
Masha’allah! I don’t think I could have had a better baby, especially under these circumstances. He is a sweetie pie. I already have two nicknames for him (Red Man and Sharwama). He is my smallest baby. Weighed 2.7kg (about 6lbs) at birth. I love his name, but can’t tell yall cuz one of the complaints taken to my husband about the blog was that I gave my children’s names and this complaint my dh took serious. I can give you all clues though…lol. There are several gates of Jannah (paradise) – I’ve read 7 in one report and 8 in another. He is names after one of the gates of jannah. May he, his parents, siblings, and offspring be able to enter jannah though any gate we please…aameen.
My Family
This pregnancy was lonely for me because I did not have the support of my family. I did not tell my siblings, mother, father, Aunts, Uncles or cousins. I did not want my mother to find out because she worries a lot. When I was pregnant with my last son all I did was call her and she was like, “are you pregnant?” Said in that irritated pissed off I can’t believe my teenage daughter is pregnant way. After I delivered him, she begged me not to get pregnant again. So this time I did not call her for fear she would detect it in my voice (yall know how mamas are!), and I did not tell other family members. I called my sister the night of the delivery all drugged out sounding and told her to tell ma. She was like, “I can’t believe you are 30 something and hiding your pregnancies.” All I could do was cry on the phone I was so out of it and I was glad my sister was there for me in my drugged out state.
“Allahumma la sahla illa ma ja’lta sahlan wa anta taj’alu al-hazna idha shi’ta sahlan.”
“O Allah, there is no ease except by that which you have made easy, and you are able to make to change difficulty into ease if you wish.” [Sahih ibn Hibban]
“Qaddar Allahu masha’a fa’ala.”
“Allah has decreed and He does what He wills.” [Sahih Muslim]
“Hasbi Allahu wa ne’mal wakil.”
“Allah is sufficient for me and is the best trustee of affairs.” [Recorded by Abu Dawud and authenticated by Shaykh al-Albani]
“Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.”
“We belong to Allah, and surely to Him we shall return.” [Al-Qur'an 2:156]
"Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. Allahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha."
"Truly to Allah we belong and verily to Him we shall return. O Allah, reward me in this calamity and compensate me with something better than it." [Sahih Muslim]
You will be in my dua’as.
Did they perforate/damage your urethra when they inserted the catheter perhaps? I know after my C-section I had a lot of irritation as well. It didn’t show up as a UTI but the doctor told me it was fairly common as a result of the catheterization. I didn’t have ANYTHING like the spasms you described though.
Even if you have to pump milk and let someone else take the baby for awhile, DO IT. The possibility of nipple confusion is worth a bit of much needed rest so you can heal and even that can be fixed.
I think you might have a urinary tract infection maybe from the catheter. try to drink plenty of fluids to include cranberry juice which will knock it right out if thats what it is. If you had gestational diabetes they would see protein in your urine from that. May Allah heal you and make you well and remove from your sins and raise you in rank for your patience through this trial. Start sipping on that cranberry juice at least 3 glasses a day, insha’allah.
As Salaamu Alaikum ummadam; I intend to make a special effort for duaat for you. Also, if you can’t get cranberry juice easily, you can also use pomegranate juice.It might be more available since it’s native to Iran and the Southeast. The brand caled “POM” is all-natural. I hope it helps.
Okay I just wrote you all back but it disappearred! I’ll sum it up. Your kind words and duas mean more than you can imagine. May it represent you well on the day that allah will speak to each person with no intrepreter or intermediary.
I suspect the area where the catheter was placed is damaged or as mu dr said raw and sensitive. The after pains are what are worse. it’s like raw nerves being manipulated!
I can’t find any Cranberry Juice, but an American friend gave me two boxes of Cran Aid tea by Traditional Medicines and she almost swears by it. i have been taken it 3 times a day but she called today to tell me to increase it and drink it like water…like 10 times a day.
I’ll tell my dh to pick up the Pomegranate juice…that’s easily available and he loves the stuff. it looks thick and yucky! But i’ll give it a shot insha’allah.
As Salaamu Alaikum ummadam, I am a regular reader who is delurking because I am concerned. perhaps everyone is right and you do have a uti, or they perforated your urethra with the catheter. Either way, please investigate further and do not let doctors blow you off – have they done all the scans they can possibly do to detect for a tear? If you had a uti, that may have led to a kidney infection (bacteria from untreated utis can spread to kidneys). Do you have any back pain?
The presence of protein is definitely an indication for kidneys – my dad had that symptom for some time and he ignored it and it got worse and now he is entering his 7th year of dialysis (both kidneys eventually failed).
I don’t mean to frighten you – forgive me if I have.
I will make dua for you.
Subhana’allah!
May Allah allow you to heal quickly and may this be an expiation for you,insha’allah..
Assalaam alaikum
Mabrouk on your new baby. May Allah heal you and make things easy for you. I’ve never had a c-section, but I did have bathroom problems after some births (I won’t more specific, lol).
I understand about not telling your family about the pregnancy. I did that with my last baby. I just called them and told them after I gave birth. They are always giving me advice and hints on how to prevent pregnancy (or at least they used to, when I was having them).
Assalamu alaikum, Oh,Dear Sister you are in my Dua’s.Mabrouk habibty on your new one!
As Salaamu Alaikum Dear Umm Adam:
I don’t know about the urinary problems, but I will say dua for you in general, my dear. Allah (swt) will truly reward you. You are in my thoughts and dua.
Assalamu Alaikum dear sis,
I’ve been reading your blog for sometime now. I’m from the Maldives, you probably haven’t even heard of it. Anyhow, I would just like to say that I was very saddened upon reading that you’re sick. May Allah heal you and reward you for your patience. May these difficult times be an expiation of sins for you insha Allah. Congratulations on your new baby and may he be a righteous child who will be of benefit to the Muslim ummah.
Sis,
I will keep you in my dua, inshallah. As proudmuslim said: May Allah heal you and reward you for your patience. May these difficult times be an expiation of sins for you ameen.
You do know that sharwama is thinly sliced meat right? LOL!I’m kidding–I know you know… My second son’s nickname really was kefta–which is ground meat balls. My little kefta…I couldn’t imagine anyone else would nickname their baby after processed meat. New meaning to strange sisters.
The no-sleep-new-baby-madness doesn;t last forever–ALHUMDIALLLAH. Inshallah he will be a good little sleeping sharwama.
Congratulations again. I know that he will bring you much happiness. May he also bring peace.
I second the advice above re. cranberry/pomegranate.
The afterpains are CRAZY. They hurt so bad.
ummadam: Please give email me your home address. I want to send you some wonderful herbal mommy-and-baby-care stuff. You ever heard of products called “Carol’s Daughter”? I used to live down the street from the sister when I lived in Brooklyn and she makes the MOST lovely, natural, smell-so-good-you-could-eat-the-jar skincare products. (Also baby care and hair care stuff.)
As-salaamu-alaikum,
I did not know you were even pregnant. May Allah speed your recovery and give your family continued health.
Assalamu alaikum Umm Adam.
May Allah make this trial easy for you. I too will make dua for you as duas are the weapon of the beleiver. As a sister recently reminded me, this world is an abode of tests and trials.
Just a note on the tea. I am a training naturopath and I always advice my patients to make large batches of tea (whatever the prescribed herbs are) and place a pitcher in the fridge. It is much easier to drink large quantities of cold tea (or room temp) than hot. Also, do not forget o cover the vessel when the tea is steeping. You can actually just leave the bags in the pitcher if you co with the iced version. Insha Allah, just use the pom juice as you sweetner, cut the tea with it
Congradulations on you new son, I too just had a little man. What a blessing they are. I pray for you my sister in faith.
Salaam Alaikum sweetie,
I swear by that Cran-aid and will pray this clears up soon, insha’Allah.
About your mom sensing your pregnancies — that made me laugh. I have actually had dreams that my daughter was pregnant both times and called her to confirm. Quite oddly, each time it was right after she found out. The 2nd time my dream was so exact that I dreamt her mother-in-law had found out and was very angry, telling them both they had no business getting pregnant again when they had their hands full with their 1 year old son. In my dream I told her she would be having a daughter this time. I called to tell her and she was shocked because my dream was what had just taken place the night before with her mother-in-law when they told her they were expecting. And sure enough — it was a girl that time.
I am always overcome with joy knowing there is a baby coming into our family. I try not to push two hard at my daughter but I would love it if they had 2-3 more. She tells me I have to wait for her brother and his wife to catch up! LOL!
Love to you and your dear family,
PM
Salaam,
Cran aid……….hmmmm never heard of it. Everyday I hear of something new. UmmAdam I will keep you and your family in my du’a..
Assalaamu alaykum,
May Allah help you, sister, ameen!
Salam aleikum,
Inshallah, everything will be alright. May Allah continue to be with you and your family.
As Salaamu Alaiki,
Mabruk on your pregnancy and I pray you are feeling better. I have been reading through your blog here and I was wondering…are you ummadam, a.k.a. Umm Sauda who lives in Jubail? If so this is Amanda(and so much for the anonymity of the internet)!!!
If not, feel free to ignore. LOL!
So are you feeling better?
You sound like a looney religous fanatic GL with that.
I’m sure by now your bladder infection is gone but for future reference, buy AZO at any pharmacy,it takes away the pain and constant urgency to urinate. I hate cranberry juice so i bought cranberry pills, take 2 three times a day. Buy Meso Silver on the internet. Your bladder infection will be gone in a couple days and the AZO will keep you from going insane while the Meso silver and the cranberry juice work. To keep from getting more bladder infections, just keep taking cranberry pills, they are good for you anyways, they are about $3.25 at walmart for 120 pills. I feel your pain, i went through days and days with bladder infections until i found the Meso Silver and AZO, and on the really bright side…NO DOCTOR!!!
Take care!